Thursday, December 28, 2017

The Social Media Detox

 For the past few months you might have noticed my stray from my social media channels. Like everything needs an occasional detox I literally detoxed from everything in my life. Including my social media. It started around August when I was really struggling. I was sinking back into my depression, my mom's illness got worse, she kept having all these random accidents, and my cat got sick. Plus, dealing with my own health issues. You can read more about this in my post Wake up Calls and Sacred Self Care

I finally realized I had to start taking care of myself which meant letting some things go that felt like they no longer served my soul and just didn't feel in alignment with my goals and vision. This was a hard process for me and I literally felt like I was re birthed during this time. I had to shed the things that no longer served me and had to shed some goals and dreams as well. Some of these goals I didn't want to let go and still wonder if it was the right thing to do now looking back. But, my intuition told me it was time to start fresh and find the things on my journey that I'm passionate about. Which led me back to blogging and writing. And also planted some other goals and dreams for my future.

I had a rough couple months but I have been slowly getting back to blogging. I felt like the social media detox was good for me. I wasn't obsessed with what to post or to post things I thought other people would like. Even with my blog. I blog for me and I felt awkward about switching my focus to the goddess, and spirituality, and cycle syncing. And talking about miracles. But, this is where I currently am at in my life and this is who I am. The real me. So when  get back to social media it won't be for the likes. It won't be for the follows. Although I would be lying if I said I didn't like those things because obviously I do. I like when people like what I'm posting. But, when I post it will be for me. If I want to post my cats 3 times a day then heck why not. If I post my food (Which I will be when I start Cycle syncing) because I want to surround myself with a community that gets it. and hopefully through this blog I can share my different journeys. My health journey and my spiritual journey. I still consider myself a lifestyle blog because I will throw in some beauty as well and fitness. I am not a stick with one topic kind of girl. But, I like the direction my blog is taking. And I'm truly proud of the posts I've written lately.

What my social media detox taught me was:
 1. Be myself and be authentic it's okay if people don't get it
2. Post for myself not for the likes (although I still like them)
3. Share my journey because maybe I can help someone else. Even if one person benefits then it's totally worth it.
4. Blog and post on social media for myself. Because it aligns with my soul and is something that makes me thrive.
5. Share what I love (oracle cards, crystals, my cats, Yoga bath bombs, Coffee mugs, Plant based foods and occasionally a pizza.)
6. Practice Sacred self-care on a daily basis and do what fills me soul up and is in alignment with my soul. Which some days may mean taking a break from the blog or social media. Nothing wrong with that. It's all apart of taking care of myself and listening to my body. If I'm burned out that won't help myself or anyone else.

Have you ever taken a social media Detox? What did you learn from it? What are your blog and social media accounts filled with? Hopefully stuff you love. P.S Drop your link and I'll check out your social media.

Friday, December 22, 2017

The Power of being a woman

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Okay now on to another juicy topic because I am seriously excited about this. I want to talk about the menstrual cycle. It's a topic that I have seriously been obsessed with lately and I just couldn't wait to write about it. I am going to get very personal here but I always hated my menstrual cycle. I used to feel like it was a curse. I thought it was gross. I thought life would be so much better without it. But, now when someone says something like "One day you can get rid of it surgically." it makes my stomach churn. I am not against surgical or hormonal fixes if you have a medical problem. But, I realize now especially as a woman our power comes from our womb. Babies come from our womb. We birth creativity through our womb. New projects, businesses, and basically everything spiritual is birthed from our womb. This is a huge honor and not something to be thought of as dirty or disgusting. It's mama nature. I remember being ashamed of my period growing up. No one talked about. It was something you kept hidden especially from men. MyFlo app actually lets you sync up to your spouses email so they can keep track of your cycle too. If you did go through menopause, had a hysterectomy, or are on the pill you can still cycle sync. And/or sync with the lunar moon phases. I like to do both. I recommend Womancode for more information on how you can cycle sync on the pill, after menopause, or a hysterectomy. For the lunar and moon cycles I love using Moonology.

Most women think this is only for trying to get pregnant or avoiding pregnancy but it about so much more then just that. It's about getting to know your body and your womb. Getting to know mama earth and in touch with the goddess inside of yourself. And this can be for men too. Knowing your partners cycle can help you too.

I found this app called "MyFlo" It is one the apps that actually lets you know what phase of your cycle you are in and ways you can support yourself. For example right now I'm in my luteal phase (post ovulation) so the goal for the first half of the week is to get as much done as possible before I start to really feel those PMS symptoms and need to take a rest. And to do more physically demanding exercise before my body needs a rest. And there is even specific nutrients your body needs during a particular phase of each of the cycles. The luteal phase is the enchantress, wild woman, medicine woman. This phase is the Kali. This is when we start to turn inward and die and shed what no longer serves us as women. The beauty is that each month we can literally be reborn. Everything in life is attached to both birth and death. But, yet we tend to shy away from death and the crone. Destruction and change scares us. But, sometimes we need to shed, let go, and be reborn.

It reminds me of the symbol of the Ouroboros the snake biting it's tail. The cycle of nature's creation, destruction, life, and of death. All that power is literally stored in our womb. I've felt that when I've had juicy ideas that wanted to be birthed and come alive. Some of those dreams died and had to change and others blossomed and where reborn. A mantra I've been chanting lately is "Adi Shakti" It means "the primal, The first power." It is the feminine in all her aspects. It embodies creativity, balance, and creation. When I chant this mantra I feel it's power. The feminine is a powerful source. My journey with the cycles started when I read The Optimized woman. I heard about this book from a friend who was also discovering the magic of the menstrual cycle. I knew about the different phases and aspects but I didn't really know how to utilize these certain times for my daily/weekly/ and monthly life. I didn't really know to sync my cycle with my everyday. This book was something that really helped me to do that. By taking me from the beginning of the cycle to the end. With steps to do on a daily basis for each day of the cycle. I've delved even deeper this past month with the My Flo app and another book called Wild Power. 

Phase 1 is the follicular phase. The Maiden. The best time to get things done as we are more in our yang energy at this point and have the most energy. This is a great time to really take action in what we want to birth for the month. And make a plan.
Phase 2 The ovulation phase. Mother. The time to incubate our dreams and goals and really bring them to life. This is usually the juiciest phase where we feel good and have more charisma and self-esteem.
Phase 3 The luteal phase. The enchantress. Wild woman. Medicine woman. This is the phase that we usually try to ignore. It is the Kali PMS phase. Where we might not like what we are feeling and others looking in might not get our wild emotions. This is the best time to sink into those emotions and not try to change them or control them but let them be and guide us.
This is a short overview of what I've learned. There is so much more.
Phase 4 is the menstrual cycle. The crone. The shedding and being reborn. This is a great time to think of what no longer serves you and to let things go. And think of what you want to birth in the coming cycle.

If you want to take it a step further and learn FAM (fertility awareness method to know exactly where you are on your cycle). Most women use FAM for fertility awareness to either plan or prevent pregnancy. But, I also think it's a great way to learn more about our bodies and cycles. Two apps are Kindara and Naturalcycles

I am excited to learn and share even more of my journey with you as it continues to develop. 

Monday, December 18, 2017

Keep Up Spirit

One of my favorite Kundalini Yogi Kriya's is called "For-Keep-Up Spirit." One of the things that is big in Kundalini yoga practice is to "keep up" To keep going even when you are tired or want to stop. To keep going even when you are on the verge of giving up. To keep up with the breath even if you can't keep up with the physical movements.

This morning I was doing my morning practice. I did a kundalini set to reduce stress and anxiety. I haven't done this particular set in awhile and it took me a little while to sink back into this particular kriya. I wanted to give up this morning but yoga is often a  reflection of life. I always feel what I take to the mat I also bring into my day today life.

I thought about how I've let my anxiety and fear get the best of me in the past. Lately my anxiety and stress have been creeping back up again. As soon as I think I've shaken it, it had a tendency to show back up. Of course, I've been learning a lot about the menstrual cycle lately. More on that later. I thought about the times I gave up out of fear. Or when I subconsciously pushed things away out of fear. Our mind has a lot more control then we realize at times. often times I didn't do things because I was afraid of the anxiety. Not because of the fear itself. Unfortunately, a symptom of having panic attacks is that then you are afraid that they will show up again. I haven't had a horrible panic attack in months. Maybe even a year. But, the fear is still there. In the back of my mind.

This year I've decided to work with my fear. To feel my emotions and sink into them. Not dwell on them but feel them and acknowledge them. Sometimes our feelings just want to be acknowledged. Once we know what we are feeling then we can make an effort to resolve the issues that actually cause these feelings in the first place. In my yoga practice I decided not to quit but to push through and keep trying. This is a major resemblance to my life off the mat. This year I've decided to "keep up." To make my goals for the year and I've broken them down into smaller steps that are easier to manage. I love big dreams and goals but in the past I realized I never actually broken them down. I saw the end result but not the in between. And this is where my fear tended to creep in with insecurity. Also creating daily steps makes the bigger goal or dream seem closer to possibility. This year I will not give up. Even if it seems like my dreams and goals are hitting a wall, or I get burned out, or I feel like I don't have enough time, money, or energy to support my goals. But, I will keep up despite it all. If I get burned out I will take more time for self-care. I will save up the funds to reach my goals. I will listen to my body if my energy starts to wane. I will make the time and pencil it in my schedule. These are all ways I've discovered that I can nurture myself and my goals for the year. These are ways that I can keep up my spirit.

Pick one or three goals this year that are really juicy and make you feel excited. When you picture yourself in 2019 what are you doing? who are you with? what self-care practices are you doing? What does your body look like? your spirituality? What goals make your soul come alive? What are things you've been on the backburner that you ache to get back to?

Now pick one to three BIG goals. Now make a list. What can you actually achieve in one year. Be realistic this is not about burning yourself out. If you have more then three big goals and you know it will take more then a year to achieve make a 4, or 5, or even 6 year plan. I made a 5 year plan because I know not all my juicy goals are going to get achieved this year. But, I'm not willing to throw them out either. They just have to go on the backburner for a bit until they are ready to be birthed. But, I picked three major goals.

Then break those goals down. what can you do for the year? the month? everyday? Can you spend an hour writing or painting. Or can you spend half a day on a day you don't work at your main job. Or maybe it has nothing to do with career but it is a sacred practice you lost touch with. Can you do it three times a week?

Then once you figure out what you can do figure out how to nurture yourself. Self-care is the cornerstone for fulfilling our goals and dreams. If you start to get burned out or feel like there is not enough time what are some practices you can do to help you regain your energy and time? These are just some ideas. I urge you to make your own. have fun, play, and don't be afraid to dream big.

What are your goals for the new year? How do you plan to support your body, soul, and mind while you fulfill these goals?

Friday, December 8, 2017

Showing up VS Giving up

“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
Winston S. Churchill

This morning as I was doing my daily writing practice I thought about the times when I've shown up for myself. The times when I've followed my dreams and worked towards a goal. The times when I've shown up to take care of myself. Versus the times when I gave up. I procrastinated or made an excuse.

Over the years I've procrastinated and made a lot of excuses. I haven't always been faithful to taking care of ME. I haven't been my own friend. I wondered why this was. Why did I say I was going to do my yoga practice and then I spent the night vegging out in front of the TV? Obviously there must be some pay off for it otherwise I wouldn't do it.

I came to the conclusion that change is so freakin' scary. Even good positive change can throw us for a loop sometimes. Forging into the unknown can be scary. At times I believe I did put too much pressure on myself and when you have a thousand mile to do list then yes it can be unrealistic to get everything done. But, if it's something that makes you feel happy and something you enjoy why back down on it? Why give It up for something less then fulfilling in the long run?

Obviously, for me TV can be a way to numb out. To escape my problems. Soul work and self care can sometimes feel like work. At times you do have to dig deep and get to the root. Yoga means To unite to join. To unite or join body, mind, and spirit. I love my yoga practice and all my self care practices but on a cold morning it can be easier to stay in bed then to get up and write. But Yogi Bhajan said "If we get up in the morning, we do Sadhana. We don't do Sadhana to please anybody, we do Sadhana to please ourselves. We work on ourselves in the morning. We want to know ourselves, we prepare ourselves and that is the way to go."

I am not perfect with doing my sadhana every morning. But, I'm working on it. And I'm working on completing a 40 day practice.  I notice how much more positive I am and happier and how my life works so much better when I have a discipline and a practice and stick with it. I don't do my practices for others so it's a choice. I can choose to invest my time in it or not. But, when I do invest my time in something that  enjoy that makes me happy it creates a radical shift in my day and life. I love to wake up early and prepare myself for the day ahead. Yes I also love sleeping in and sometimes it is necessary if I'm sick or not feeling well but otherwise waking up with the sun is becoming my favorite routine. Plus, rewarding myself with coffee helps too. Doing my daily spiritual practices is a reward to myself.

“Don't be afraid of your fears. They're not there to scare you. They're there to let you know that something is worth it.”
C. JoyBell C.

I wondered why change can be so scary. Even positive change. Why implanting positive routines can be so hard. With New years coming up I was thinking about resolutions. Why so many people have the best intentions on the first and then by the 4th or 5th the resolutions are dropped and put in a dream list or something to do next year. I have been so guilty of this. I have a dream that I've been procrastinating on for 4 years. It's been in my heart for 4 years and I've envisioned it but I never really did anything about it. I have another dream that's been in my heart for 5 or 6 years. But, until recently I was too scared to act on it. Even putting in small actions frightened me and I always came up with some reason why it couldn't be done right now. I realized I am afraid of change like so many others. Obviously it also comes down to limiting beliefs which I am working on. But, it's not laziness it's fear. So now this year I am making a plan and taking action steps to reach those goals. I will face my fears this year. That's my resolution. To live authentically,  face my fears, and show up for myself so I can live the life of my dreams. This year my resolution is to SHOW UP.

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