Sunday, April 15, 2018

My 5 Year Blogiversary

I can't believe I've had my blog for the past 5 years today. When I started this blog I really just wanted an outlet to be myself and to talk about my passions and dreams. I wanted an outlet to share pictures of my cats, my family, and my life. An outlet besides Facebook and Instagram. I wanted to tell my stories. Over time, I used my blog as an outlet to share about my anxiety and about living my passions and working my way towards my dreams. I am still working on these things and I am grateful that I can continue this journey and share this journey with others. 

I neglected this blog at times. Life got in the way. At times my depression and anxiety got the best of me. But, I always keep coming back to blogging and writing. At the end of 2017, I decided I was going to up-level my blog and really work on my blogging goals. In March I got a bit off track but I am excited to jump back into my goals. To jump back into living my passions and making my dreams and goals come true one step at a time. 

My life has changed so much over the past 5 years. I'm currently 31 when I started the blog I was 27.  I've moved three times over the past 5 years. I've gotten back into my self-care practice. I've discovered goals and dreams. I started working on my book again. I've gotten sidetracked by life and illness but I always pick myself back up. In other ways, my life has really not changed all that much. But, I am excited to see what this year blogging will bring and what changes will occur throughout this year. 

Here are my 5 year and one-year blog stats. I got the original idea from Farm Girl Miriam who recently had her 5 year Blog anniversary as well. She is one of my blogger inspirations. 

 126 Blog Posts
48,590 page views
My Most Popular Post of the Year: How To Create A self Care Routine When you are burned out 522 Views


My most popular post was Self-care is not Selfish with 236 views


My most popular post was The Miracle Morning with 134 views 


In June My most popular post was Overnight Oats!!! Cause that's How I Roll!! With 141 Views


My most popular and only post was The Magic of Solitude and Sacred Space with 56 views. Even though it didn't get many views it is one of my favorite posts that I've written. 


In October my most popular post was Wake up calls and Sacred Self-care with 64 views. I started shifting my focus on self-care and talking about finding my balance again and listening to my heart with all the rawness that can come up in life. 


In November my only post was Creativity as a spiritual practice with 66 views


In December my most popular post was The Power Of Being A Woman with 81 views


In January my most popular post was Valentine's Day Gift Ideas For the Wildly unique woman with 127 views 


In February my most popular post was How to Create a self-care routine when you are burned out with 522  views. My most popular post of February and the year. 


In March I posted one post. My Goddess Time Self-Care Routine. As of right now, this post has 180 views. 

I've enjoyed blogging the past 5 years. As you can see some months this year I didn't post. And this year I want to work on blogging monthly, up leveling my blog, reaching more people (and hopefully inspiring others), Talking more about my anxiety and how I'm dealing with it, and writing my book. 

I am excited to see where my blogging journey takes me this year and beyond. And I'm thankful to everyone who has read my blog and stuck by me in these past 5 years even when I haven't been super consistent. And everyone who is new to reading my blog as well. 


Wednesday, April 4, 2018

Mother's Day Gift Idea's For The Cat Mom

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Mother's day is right around the corner. There are all kinds of parents including moms to fur babies. I myself am a proud cat mom.
So if you are honoring a woman in your life who is a cat mom or even just want to get something for yourself. I've put together this Gift Guide for the cat mom. 

Rosanna All You Need Is Love Cat Mom Mug- I think this is a really cute mug. It's black and gold and says Cat Mom on it. Perfect for the cat mom who also loves coffee or tea.

Pfaltzgraff Cat Mom Mug- Another cat mom mug. This mug is currently $7 so it is cute and affordable. Also Gold and White.

Purr Our Conversation Sweatshirt- A great conversation starter shirt for the cat mom who loves to talk about her furbabies. Comes in XL and XXL as well as smaller sizes.

Mix No. 6 Kitty Crew Socks - Women's - I included this is my Valentine's day gift guide but these socks are seriously cute so I wanted to include them again for my Mother's day gift guide.

Betsey Johnson Two-Tone Pave Black Crystal Cat Stud Earrings- These earrings are sparkly, by Betsey Jonhson, and remind me of my cat Lucky. Plus, they are currently on sale.

Betsey Johnson Antique Gold-Tone Cat Stud Earrings- these earrings remind me of my cat Harley Rose. Also, currently on sale.

9 Lives Cats Card- I think this is the cutest card for a cat lover. It says "I'd spend all nine lives with you."

I hope you enjoyed this Mother's day gift guide for the cat mom. I handpicked all these items to feature with love.

Monday, April 2, 2018

What it's really like to have Anxiety and How I Deal With It

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This is a blog post that I’ve been wanting to write for quite a few years now. Almost since I started my blog. I literally had a draft saved for probably three years called living with anxiety. But, it never seemed like the right time to write it. Honestly, anxiety and depression are often not shed in the best light and they have a stigma attached to them.

One of the main things people will say to me is “just think positive” or “get over it” “stop using anxiety as an excuse.” These are some of the worst things you can say to someone who has anxiety.

1st telling people to just think positive is a great idea. But, it’s not that simple. I love the law of attraction and I do believe that gratitude can help. Thinking negatively 24/7 has never helped me in the long run. So, yes I do believe in finding something. Even one thing to be grateful for can make a huge difference. Keeping a daily gratitude journal even if you are grateful for your morning coffee, or your kids, or a beloved pet. Even finding one thing can really help to get out from under the cloud that anxiety and depression causes. However, you can’t magically think positive thoughts. I think telling someone that is unrealistic. I do believe in the power of affirmations. I first discovered affirmations by reading You can heal your life by Louise Hay. I started using affirmative prayer and affirmations when I was in a very dark place with my depression. At the time it was very hard for me to think positive at all. Over the years when I’ve included affirmations with other things like yoga, journaling, and even professional help it helps me much more. I also like to write affirmations down and post them around the house. One of the things I love that Louise taught was mirror work. Even just looking at yourself in the mirror and telling yourself that you love you. Often times, it can be so hard for us to accept ourselves and love ourselves especially when we live with anxiety. We feel like the reason we can’t do things and live a normal life is our own fault. We regret the things that we didn’t or couldn't do because of our anxiety. Often times it is the person with anxiety who is harder on themselves than others. When other people are hard on the person with anxiety it is often because they don’t understand what actually happens to a person when they have anxiety and what they are going through on a daily basis.

The second thing people often say in my experience is to get over it or stop using anxiety as an excuse. Most people with anxiety wish they didn't have it. We don’t ask to have anxiety and this just makes it feel like it’s our own fault. Which in turn can lead to depression. I know for me the biggest thing that causes my depression is having anxiety. I also have agoraphobia which means it is hard for me to go out alone and I’m always afraid of being in public places especially when they are really crowded. I would love to travel and live a “normal” life so not being able to do these things adds to my depression. If it was that easy for people to get over anxiety believe me we would. This is not something anyone wants to have. So, if you know someone with anxiety then it is important to be mindful. Apart of my fear is also that I will get a panic attack. Anyone who has suffered a panic attack knows how scary those can be. That can prevent people with anxiety from going out and doing things because they are afraid of having another panic attack.

Some people with panic attacks aren't sure what is going on at first. The symptoms are not just mental but can be physical as well. This can make it even scarier for the person with anxiety and panic attacks. Symptoms include increased heart rate, hyperventilating, sweating or chills, trembling, fatigue, and feeling dizzy. There are more symptoms as well. I have had all these at one time or another and it can be very scary for the person going through it.

Over the years I have learned ways to minimize my anxiety. I haven’t gotten rid of it and I’m not sure I’ll ever truly get rid of it. First, when I go out or I know I’m going to be around a lot of people I try to deep breathe. This helps to keep me grounded. I also will practice cognitive behavioral therapy and turn my thoughts from negative into positive. This is where affirmations really come in handy. As well as gratitude. I try to shift my thoughts instead of focusing on fear I focus on the positive. This does not always get rid of my anxiety or panic but it does make situations more bearable for me. The second thing I try to do when I’m in the midst of panic or anxiety is to be mindful. I will try to find a physical object to focus on. This can be a candle, a plant, a tree, or anything that catches my attention. Personally, nature is my favorite thing to gaze at when I’m feeling anxious but if there is no window I will utilize what is around me. I will try to just be in the present and enjoy the moment which can be really hard for those with anxiety and panic. But, it does give me moments of relief and makes social situations more bearable.
Some things I like to do on a daily basis are soul writing and journaling. Journaling is a great tool for getting all the muck out of our head. Especially when you have anxiety, worry, and panic all these what if thoughts can pop up in our heads. So, for me I like to get all that out in a journal or notebook. If you are worried about others seeing it you can rip up the pages and throw them away when done. I will try to write at least three pages but usually more. How many pages you write is up to you. Some days it might one or two others it might be 10. Then I always try to shift my focus to the positive. I will write a gratitude list and a prayer. There are also many journals you can utilize as well.
A guide like the Mental Health Journal Guide for Anxiety is a great place to start. Use code christina15 at checkout.
Another journal I recommend is The Stay Sacred Journal. This has really helped me to start my morning with positive thinking. It is a 21-day journal that helps to tap you into your goals, divine feminine, and positive affirmations.  

Meditation and yoga are also a major part of my practice. I’ve done many different meditations over the years but my favorites are visualization, mantra, vipassana, and Flowdreaming. I really like the meditation on the Flowdreaming app called Instant Anxiety Relief. I will use this when I start to feel anxious or before I go someplace that I know might produce more anxiety. Yoga has also helped me tremendously over the years. It helps to ground me and get me back in my body and focusing on my breath. Exercise is a great grounding tool as well. So, is going outside and getting some fresh air or splashing some cold water on your face. If I find myself in the midst of panic I will also utilize going outside and breathing in the fresh air. This can help me almost immediately to calm down. You can even take it a step further by earthing. Putting your bare feet on the ground (as long as it is safe to do so) and/or touching a tree with your bare hands if you can’t take your shoes off. There really is something to be said for hugging a tree. Nature does have it’s own natural calming effects.

Another thing that really helps with my anxiety either before I go somewhere that I know will be anxiety producing or to do on a daily basis is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) This is when you tap on your meridian points and set up statements. These usually are statements that are true such as “I am so anxious right now but I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway.” or “even though I have this anxiety I deeply and completely love and accept myself.” Then you would say true statements like “I’m so anxious at this party right now, I’m worried no one likes me.” Then you switch to positive statements and affirmations for the final tapping round. I love listening to Brad Yates and Margaret Lynch they have some great videos for free on YouTube as well.

These are just a handful of ways that I deal with my anxiety. There are many more ways that you can deal with it as well. If you are really struggling then I suggest seeking out a professional like a counselor or psychiatrist. This blog post is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent a mental Health issue or any disease. Please see a professional for your mental health or physical health if you have a mental health issue or illness. This is only my personal experience and everyone is different.

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